I started off this series by encouraging you to set aside your excuses for why a budget won't work and asking you to join me in this budgeting adventure. I'm excited that so many of you are listening in and considering how a budget might help you with your finances.
Determining to step out of your comfort zone to try this budgeting thing is the next step toward financial success. When there's a will, there's usually a way. And we've certainly found this to be true in our own lives.
Before we got married, my dad challenged my husband and I to set down and make out a workable budget on paper. Talk about a great exercise to really get to know one another during our engagement!
I would highly recommend all engaged couples consider embarking on the exercise of budget-making. It may be eye-opening to both of you! Actually, whether you are engaged, newly-married, or celebrating your thirty-five-year anniversary, I'd recommend you consider this exercise--especially if you are struggling financially.
Where do you start?
Jesse and I began by talking through every expenditure which we felt was a necessity. Many people recommend writing down your income first and then divvying it up into percentage brackets for the various necessities and extras your budget might contain. If you are really detail-oriented and a numbers person, this might work for you. But for most of us, this would be overwhelming and we'd chuck the whole budgeting thing before we even began.
Sit down with your spouse (if you're married) and start by listing your basic living necessities: Tithe*, Shelter, Food, Clothing, Utilities, Transportation.
There are other items which are likely almost-necessities, but we'll get to those later. I want you to focus on keeping it simple! So we'll start with the big items:
*Tithe: If you are a Christian, I heartily encourage you to set aside 10% of your gross income first thing to give to your local church. By cheerfully giving of our firstfruits to God (even if we don't feel like we have extra for this!), we are demonstrating that God is the first priority in life. God will bless you for your obedience to His commands and your willingness to honor Him first with your finances and to selflessly give to Him. And God can make the 90% of your income go farther than you ever thought possible--I've seen this so clearly in our lives and in many other lives.
How much are you spending on rent or your mortgage per month? Write it down under the "Shelter" heading.
How much are you spending on groceries and eating out per month? Write it down under the "Food" heading.
How much are you spending on clothing per month? Write it down under the "Clothing" heading.
How much are you spending on utilities (electricity, water, gas bill, etc.) per month? Write it down under the "Utilities" heading.
How much are you spending on transportation (gas, car payments, car repair, etc.) per month? Write it down under the "Transportation" heading.
Now, for some of you, you keep meticulous records and know exactly how much you spend in all of those areas. For most, you probably have a very basic idea but don't know specifically. You might know how much your rent or house payment is, or how much your car payment is, but that's about it. What do you do then?
Well, start by giving a basic estimate of what you think would cover all of your expenses in that category for a month. This will likely not be totally accurate, but it's just your starting point. I'd recommend that you estimate high when you first start out--you'd much rather get to lower the spending in that category, than to have to raise it.
If you are paid weekly, divide the monthly amounts by four and set aside that much each time you get paid. If you are paid bi-weekly, divide it in half and set that aside with each paycheck.
If your income is variable, we'll talk more about how to budget on a variable income in the near future, but for now, I recommend you take into account how often and how much you are usually paid and then divvy up the paycheck accordingly.
If you have no income, well, we'll talk about that later, too. :)
When you get your paycheck, automatically deduct from it the above amount that you have alloted for each category. The main reason for doing this is to encourage you to begin developing the discipline of covering your most important expenses first. This will save you much financial headache and turmoil.
I recommend you go ahead and pay the rent or mortgage payment (at least write the check), pay the car payment (though I hope to convince you soon that you shouldn't ever take out a car payment again--ever! But that's for another post!), and pay the utility bills as soon as possible.
I recommend you take out cash for clothing and food and stick those in two different envelopes to only be used for food and clothing, respectively. If you've never used cash like this before, we'll talk more about the envelope system and why I recommend it later. I just encourage you to try it for now. If you're like us, you'll find that taking real cash with you to the store instead of a credit card or even a debit card means you find it much harder to part with and so you're instinctively more careful about your purchases.
For your gas, I'll let you decide what is best. We use our debit card for this and set aside a certain amount every two weeks. This allows us to pay at the pump and saves us some time and effort. It's especially nice when I need to stop for gas while I'm out by myself with the two girls. This is one of the few things we use our debit card for. If you prefer cash or check, use that. I don't recommend using a credit card for anything, but I'll leave that option up to you if you're still not convinced about shredding those up yet. Again, we'll talk more about that in the future.
At the end of the month, stop and evaluate how this system worked for you. Do you need to increase any of the categories because your estimations were off? If so, re-work your budgeted amounts. There is absolutely nothing wrong with doing this. In fact, it is to be expected. Your budget is not a strict slavemaster, it is a guideline and tool that grows and changes with you as you move throughout life. It will change with the ebbs and flows of life and when you are first starting out, it will need lots of tweaking.
If you have money leftover in any of the categories, roll it over to the next month. I recommend you wait at least a few months before lowering any category as you'd rather have some extra than not enough.
Once you feel confident in the above exercise of budgeting your basic necessities, you are now ready to move on in the direction of budgeting more or all of your income. We'll discuss that more in-depth in the next installment of this series. Stay tuned!
If you have a budget, I'd love to hear how you got started with budgeting and the blessings which have resulted from budgeting.
Be sure to check out all the great Frugal Friday tips over on my other blog today.
Friday, February 29, 2008
Budgeting 101 - Part 2
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Do you have any specific advice for those of us who are students and don't have jobs, but rather are paid in grants and scholarships only once or twice a year?
Your blog has been very helpful to our family. I have been CVSing since last fall. We have also instituted a weekly menu plan.
At the beginning of the year, we sat down and planned our budget for the year. Every Friday our family has a "Financial Friday Meeting." We go over where we are on our expenses and more ideas to keep our budget in check. It helps the whole family to feel like they are a part of this. I've noticed my whole family has gotten better about "wasting."
Please check out my "Money Manager Monday" posts which relate exactly to what Crystal is discussing--from budgeting to envelopes to coupons.
www.frugalgeorgiamom.blogspot.com
For the post relating to budgeting, try this link:
http://frugalgeorgiamom.blogspot.com/2007/12/money-manager-mondays-part-1.html
I'm new to tithing, and I'm wondering: Why pay a tithe on the gross income rather than the net? How does this work?
Kacie: Jesse and I see strong Scriptural basis for tithing, but as far as gross or net, that's not something to split hairs over. Tithing off either one is a great start! :)
We personally tithe off of our gross income just because we feel like we'd rather God have the firstfruits of all of our money since we get taxed off our gross as well. We might as well give God what's first, rather than what's leftover after the government's had their share.
That's just what we've always done and how God has led us.
Budgeting has made us feel rich. We were living paycheck to paycheck each month until we started doing this. We ended up saving $28K in 22 months. I can't encourage everyone enough to evaluate your budget regularly. It took us eight months of tweaking before we really had it down perfectly. So if at first you don't succeed, try try again!
The envelope system worked for us! I've been married less than a year. We had set up a budget during our engagement period and tried to stick to it as best as we could after the wedding but, we failed each month. A friend suggested using envelopes for most of the areas where we tend to overspend (like for household expenses, date nights, clothes, etc). The FIRST month we tried it, it worked! This system does take a little extra effort, but well worth it. Using this system means we have to be purposeful when we go out shopping. If we know we will be purchasing socks for example, then we need to bring the clothing envelope with us before we leave. If we just happen to be out and about, and we see something we like, but haven't brought the corresponding envelope, then we have to wait to buy the item -- which also saves us from impulse buying. Having a budget is great because every dollar has a name -- and by recording all of our receipts we know where every penny goes.
And to be honest, budgeting has made me more aware of how blessed we have been (even when things are "tight"), it makes me worry less, and makes me more thankful to the Lord who is gracious to provide for that which we need. It's always good to remember that He owns it ALL anyways. We are just the managers of what He gives.
Love, K
Crystal,
Your advice is always great!! We do our budget very similarly to what you have suggested.
I also use Microsoft Money and enter/accrue all of our "stuff" for the entire month so I can see a true statement of how much we have at the end of the month for paying off extra debt and savings. This really help me be more frugal with our resources because I know we can achieve our financial goals faster when it's laid out in the format money presents.
Even if being frugal I have to wonder, where do Christians get the whole 10% for tithe? I was taught that growing up and heard it over and over but I don't remember reading that anywhere. The New Testament says to give out of a joyful heart. Maybe the OT says something. We are to give out of the abundance of our heart with a joyful heart. The widow gave her two mites - that was all that she had it says.
In planning a budget, I would challenge people to give to God first. A tip at the local restaurant is 20% so why give God less.
Just some thoughts I have been having and my husband and I have put them to the test. It has been amazing to see God provide for us and it has strengthened out faith in Him! :)
My husband and I have been married 15 months and because he had been in mission work and I in a missions training program for 3 years, and therefore had precious little money we decided to use a budget from the start of our marriage. Using a budget has allowed us to live within our means and I know that it has saved us thousands! We live comfortably although not luxuriously. But it feels so good to know that the only debt we have is our home mortgage which will be paid off in 7 years or less. And I love knowing that for years to come, we will reap the financial benefits of doing without all those little unnecessary things that would be tempting to buy and that I probably WOULD buy if we did not closely monitor our spending.
I also wholeheartedly agree with your advice to tithe. Not only is it biblical, there is a satisfying feeling that comes from being able to say thank-you to God in that way for blessing us. And I too have seen how God has taken care of various friends of mine when they gave their "last pennies" in faith. He really does honor our tithing.
Thanks Crystal for what you are promoting here on your blog! It's good stuff!
CLComstock: The word "tithe" literally means 10%. That's where it comes from. In the Bible, 10% is the only percentage we are told by God to give. Scripture talks repeatedly about giving cheerfully and from our heart and Scripture also says that those who labor to preach and teach are worthy of being paid. Sadly, less than 2% of those who call themselves Christians actually give anything to the church or missions.
My husband and I feel that our first 10% should go to our local church and then any extra giving we do goes to missions, the needy, and so forth. We feel strongly that we should be supporting our local church first.
I definitely think our whole lives should be characterized by giving and serving and selflessness-- especially if we are Christians--as that is following in Christ's steps. One of our biggest motivations for being frugal is so that we have more to give. What joy would there be in hoarding it all for ourselves?
Crystal,
When my husband and I married 10 years ago, we had no idea how to properly manage money. Actually, three days before our wedding, I remember sitting down and writing out a rough ‘budget’. I put down a rough estimate of what our monthly expenses and income would be, and, well, as Dave Ramsey always says, I saw that there was going to be a whole lot of month left at the end of our money.
So, we got married and every month there was tension between us because we were struggling financially. My husband felt inadequate as a provider and I was always filled with angst and insecurity about how the bills were going to get paid. This went on for years. For years!
Then about two years ago, the Lord began working in my life, showing me the messed up view that I had on money and ‘stuff’. I began to simplify, started paying more attention to wants vs. needs, and became very convicted about how we were not being good stewards of the provisions He was giving us. My husband began to have the same convictions and we began working on Dave Ramsey’s Baby Steps.
So, after 9 years of marriage, we finally have a working budget. And by ‘working budget,’ I mean, a budget that works because we work (use) it! We no longer have a strain in our marriage because of finances. As a matter of fact, my husband and I had a chuckle the other night because a conversation that we were having about different kinds of savings accounts got just a tad bit ‘intense’. We both realized that that was our first ‘argument’ about money in over a year and it was about what to do with all of the money we have to save.
Now, I rather enjoy doing the bills! I love being able to look at the budget, pay what needs to be paid, and not have to worry about whether or not there will be enough money there to pay the next round of bills. I can see it all laid out in front of me on the budget. (Also, having an emergency fund has made all the difference when it comes to those months when the ‘unexpected’ happens. I hope that you’ll cover that at some point too. Or, maybe you already have and I missed it. :) )
For the first time in our marriage, we are tithing faithfully!
And, after starting this journey 13 months ago, we are now debt free! (Except for the mortgage.) We could have probably paid off our debt even faster but in the beginning we were not sticking to our budget. So, it took us a few months to fine tune the budget and actually stick with it. However, once we did, it made a world of difference! Not only in our financial life, but also in our marriage.
Thank you, Crystal, for this wonderful site! You and your many helpful readers have helped me lower the amount of money that I need to put in my grocery envelope.
"A budget is people telling their money what to do instead of wondering where it went." ~John Maxwell
We believe that under the Old Law the Israelites gave 10%, so we under the New Law with it's blessings should give even more. Since we've been married (17 years) we have always given over 10% and have been blessed 100-fold. We also give out of the gross. As Crystal stated, there is principal for it in the Bible to give of your first-fruits (or your best) to God. The Bible also teaches, if you don't give, you rob God as everything we have comes from Him - we are only stewards of it.
I've recently discovered Pear Budget (http://www.pearbudget.com), and it's currently in its beta stages - which means free! It's the easiest budgeting software I've found yet. Very easy, clean, simple to read... I love it so far!
I'm doing a series on my blog about Dave Ramsey's Baby Steps, so your budgeting series falls right in line. I'll be linking to it in the near future... Thanks for doing this!
Crystal, I love your blog and am so thankful for what you do. I just want to say that I identify as a non-Christian but spiritual person, and I strongly believe that everyone, regardless of their faith, should strive to tithe their income to whatever cause they wish. Currently my husband is in school and we are living without any student loan help so we can only giving a little each month. I don't know how else to say it except it just seems like to right thing to do. Thanks for incorporating it into your budget info!
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